The woman who knitted

woman knitting

โ€œOh, itโ€™s just nice to get away from all the noise at home. You know?โ€ Her eyebrows had curved up while her fingers paused in mid air. Iโ€™d nodded politely even though I couldnโ€™t possibly fathom why someone would go to the library every day just so they can knit.ย 

Iโ€™d just started working in the library when I met her for the first time. The curious stares never perturbed her, and neither did the incessant shuffling of feet.

People came and went. Since only a handful of them regularly spent time reading, the knitting lady soon became an icon you couldnโ€™t miss.

In the following years, I spent occasions wondering what drove her away from home and into the library. I mean, Iโ€™d go when I wanted a book. Or to work or to attend a meeting. Theories constantly whirled my headโ€”perhaps her neighbours were loud and rowdy, I mused turning on my cassette player at home one night. Or maybe her husband was a messy gardener leaving dirt marks all around the house to annoy her. Or perhaps, I wondered remembering my own grandparents, her grandkids were a pain in the ass and a torment to the ears.

But I never asked her.

โ€œI shouldโ€™ve,โ€ I wrote in my diary the night after her funeral.

It wasnโ€™t people thatโ€™d driven her way from home. It was lack there of.


Photo credit: Imani on Unsplash.

Scars

She had an unmistakeable spring in her step. It was a new town and a new life, yes but she would make it work. She was nothing if not adaptive.

She slipped into her new sweater, pulled on the boots, buckled up the coat, adjusted the hat, and walked out the door. Winter was fast approaching.

Hello, world! Her soul yelled. Show me what you got!

As if theyโ€™d heard, two boys came up from hind her. With watermelon heads and noses the size of grapes,โ€Yo!โ€ one of them called out. A large cap sat on his head while chains dangled round his collar and fake tattoos plastered his temple. He leaned forwards, shoving her nostrils with the nauseating scent of long-packaged cigarettes, โ€œyou got cash?โ€

Before she could react, the other boy grabbed her backpack and shook her. Hard. Stumbling on the walkway, she mutely watched him fish her wallet and grab her buffer money. 

He thrust the bag at her, while tattoo face ruffled her hair, โ€œGood girl!โ€ He leered before walking off.

It was now an old town and accustomed life. But she still doesnโ€™t look at a manโ€™s eye without shivering within.

Hop, stop, cherish

Sunset by Lake Ginninderra, Canberra

Walk, run, or dawdle

sit, breathe, and take a minute

moments donโ€™t repeat


Photo: Sunset by Lake Ginninderra, Canberra, Australia

Oh, the fall

Sunset by the Lake Burly Griffin, Canberra, Australia

Tall, erect, in line

like our soldiers sent to war

except, more alive


Photo: Sunset by the Lake Burly Griffin, Canberra, Australia

Tell me a story

โ€œOh, I thought youโ€™d forgotten!โ€

โ€œHow can I, mom? I just got 20 per cent off of bread on Motherโ€™s Day sale.โ€

My mother thought Iโ€™d forgotten about Motherโ€™s Day because I didnโ€™t wish her on Sunday. It came up when I mentioned it, with the flyaway tone it deserves, in a conversation two days later.

Every street corner has a flyer or a billboard reminding us about this celebratory day. Everywhere I look, thereโ€™re roses and pinkish red ribbons cajoling people to splurge, guilting them into buying things their mothers may never even enjoy.

But thatโ€™s just the tradition of Motherโ€™s Day. Each year during this time, storefronts and in-stores promote maternity, maternal thankfulness, love, and forever gratitude.

What a story, huh?

Storytelling is now an unmistakeable chapter in marketing books. Almost every marketer I know understands its value, speaks about it, and in public forums vouches for it. But this โ€œtrendโ€ came about only in the last three to five years. Before that, no one spoke as much about the great tactic thatโ€™s storytelling and its role in marketing and sales.

And yet, for years, weโ€™ve been falling prey to some of the most wonderful storytelling the retail industry has ever divulged.

Yes, Iโ€™m saying Motherโ€™s Day is a story. And a well-said one too.

In most of Asia, children live with their parents until they get married or go off to work in a different city. However, in most of the western world, children move out of their parentsโ€™ far soonerโ€”sometimes as early as fifteen years. That is an excellent market for the Motherโ€™s Day story. You know how it goes: the child takes one day off from their personal life to meet with their mother, praise her, thank her, and show her how much they love her. Itโ€™s the perfect storyโ€”with the right blend of care- and guilt-inducing narrative, the story can survive generations, as we see it has. The best part? As the Asian culture adapted to westernisation, more Asian children experience it too.

In a sense, the grand narrative of being there for your mother, at least one day of the year, has become such a relatable matter for so many of us that we give in to without second thoughts.

With todayโ€™s tech growth, we donโ€™t need one day of the year to bond with our mother. Heck, I moved to Australia a month ago, and I still call my mom twice every day. I donโ€™t always want toโ€”when youโ€™re talking to your mom that often, you run out of things to talk about much sooner than youโ€™d imagineโ€”but I still make time to call her. She would freak out otherwise, but itโ€™s also a nice way to acknowledge her and what she means to me.

Iโ€™m not the only one either. A lot of people I know have regular interactions with their parents. But even they follow Motherโ€™s Day ritual because itโ€™s just so baked into our minds, andโ€”gosh what would people think about them if they donโ€™t?

Thatโ€™s how compelling this story is. Itโ€™s so haunting that you canโ€™t get away from it without going through with it. And like a vicious cycle, as people fuelled the tradition every year, weโ€™ve ended up with a generation of mothers whoโ€™re accustomed to expecting the $100 wine bottle (which they know was on sale for $89.95) as proof of their childrenโ€™s love.

As a marketer, I appreciate the mastery of the storytelling. But as a child, it just makes me a monster whoโ€™s so obsessed with work that she couldnโ€™t even send her mother a card on Motherโ€™s Day.

Oh, well.