What I’ve Learnt From Eating Alone

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I eat alone. Not only because I’m comfortable with it, but also because no one else is comfortable with my schedule.

Breakfast at 6 am. Lunch at noon. Dinner at 7 pm.

From where I come, that’s insane. But that’s how I am, and I don’t expect anyone to comply with my schedule either. I’m perfectly fine with eating alone.

I’ve been following this schedule for some time now, and have come across a lot fine myths about fine-dining.

People’s natural reaction towards lone-diners is that they are lonely and depressed. Some people even go as far as giving lone-eaters some company, believing they’re doing us a favor.

But here’s the truth: eating alone is a cherished art.

When I started, I was a little self-conscious. I was uncomfortably aware of what I was eating, and sometimes the food felt really squishy in my mouth — a sensation that had nothing to do with the food.

As time went by though, I became more confident. Yes, people do raise eyebrows and concerned looks, but it doesn’t bother me anymore. Because I’m too involved in my meal.

Eating alone, I’ve noticed a few changes in myself and my eating habits.

  1. I now eat slower and more mindful than I used to. This is odd, because people usually say you eat faster when you’re alone. I look at my plate, take in the meal, and then taste it. And as I eat, I sometimes try to figure out the ingredients and the preparation of the gravies. Since I make my dinner, I like to try out new stuff.
  2. I eat my full. Another paradox. I’ve seen in a diet article, they recommended eating alone because the anxiousness makes you eat less. I successfully busted this myth. I indulge in my meals, and being alone only gives me more freedom to spend time on myself.
  3. No one to satisfy. With only myself at the table, I don’t have to engage in conversations and other social niceties. I can focus on what matters most, and be rid of the compulsive need to agree, or provide an opinion in discussions I hardly care.
  4. What table manners? You know that awkward moment when you’ve just finished a great meal, and all you want to do is lick the remains off your plate, but you’re worried what your fellow dinners might think? Well, I don’t have to worry about that at all! And it’s the best part of a meal; savouring the last.

There’s something much more important than these though. For the first time in my life, I was appreciating what I ate. This would never happen if I were surrounded by a bunch of over-excited people talking about the latest movie.

I learnt to appreciate the art of cooking and the science of blending flavors. South Indian cuisine thrives on a combination spices and, here I was, experiencing it all by myself.

Nothing can compare to the thrill of it. Anyone here who’s a lone-eater?

Parting Ways

Eyes averted, they took different paths.

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Another ambiguous short story for my collection of Flash Fiction.

#Day30 of the National Blog Posting Month and I’m proud to have finished what I started. It’s been one hell of a month, and though it was a bit tough posting every day, it was a great experience. I’ll try to keep up to the routine as much as I can.

Thank you all for reading, liking and commenting. And a special thanks to everyone who came back day after day for more of my blog. It was a huge encouragement to see the graph grow.

Hope you all had a great November, Movember, NaNoWriMo, NaBloPoMo – whatever endeavour you took up this month!

Let Chaos Reign!

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I was aimlessly browsing through Pinterest when I saw this quote attributed to Oscar Wilde. It, at first, seemed off-hand and simple, but after a while of staring at it, I could relate it to anything I could thing of.

How easily we put a limit to things, overlooking the obvious, ‘why’. We’ve always been taught to control emotions – anger and desire in particular – and not let them get out of hand. What if we just let the chaos reign within? Why limit our potential by labeling ourselves?

Well, Oscar Wilde knew his words.

National Blog Posting Month – #Day29

Ancient Edge

Today’s prompt for the Photography 101 challenge was great – with a slight edge. My workplace being in a corporate campus, there are plenty of sharp-edged buildings around, but this particular photo from my trip to Mahabalipuram stood out. Ancient constructions are much more mysterious and thought-provoking.

What do you think?

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National Blog Posting Month – #Day26

The Glass Effect

Every day, I witness the sunrise from behind my office windows. All the photos I take are from behind these glasses. But one day, I went out to the terrace and saw this reflection on the opposite doors. The reflection came out better than the direct shot on my CoolPix.

And so, here’s my response for today’s Photography 101 Assignment: Glass.

What do you think?

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National Blog Posting Month – #Day25