Tell me a story

โ€œOh, I thought youโ€™d forgotten!โ€

โ€œHow can I, mom? I just got 20 per cent off of bread on Motherโ€™s Day sale.โ€

My mother thought Iโ€™d forgotten about Motherโ€™s Day because I didnโ€™t wish her on Sunday. It came up when I mentioned it, with the flyaway tone it deserves, in a conversation two days later.

Every street corner has a flyer or a billboard reminding us about this celebratory day. Everywhere I look, thereโ€™re roses and pinkish red ribbons cajoling people to splurge, guilting them into buying things their mothers may never even enjoy.

But thatโ€™s just the tradition of Motherโ€™s Day. Each year during this time, storefronts and in-stores promote maternity, maternal thankfulness, love, and forever gratitude.

What a story, huh?

Storytelling is now an unmistakeable chapter in marketing books. Almost every marketer I know understands its value, speaks about it, and in public forums vouches for it. But this โ€œtrendโ€ came about only in the last three to five years. Before that, no one spoke as much about the great tactic thatโ€™s storytelling and its role in marketing and sales.

And yet, for years, weโ€™ve been falling prey to some of the most wonderful storytelling the retail industry has ever divulged.

Yes, Iโ€™m saying Motherโ€™s Day is a story. And a well-said one too.

In most of Asia, children live with their parents until they get married or go off to work in a different city. However, in most of the western world, children move out of their parentsโ€™ far soonerโ€”sometimes as early as fifteen years. That is an excellent market for the Motherโ€™s Day story. You know how it goes: the child takes one day off from their personal life to meet with their mother, praise her, thank her, and show her how much they love her. Itโ€™s the perfect storyโ€”with the right blend of care- and guilt-inducing narrative, the story can survive generations, as we see it has. The best part? As the Asian culture adapted to westernisation, more Asian children experience it too.

In a sense, the grand narrative of being there for your mother, at least one day of the year, has become such a relatable matter for so many of us that we give in to without second thoughts.

With todayโ€™s tech growth, we donโ€™t need one day of the year to bond with our mother. Heck, I moved to Australia a month ago, and I still call my mom twice every day. I donโ€™t always want toโ€”when youโ€™re talking to your mom that often, you run out of things to talk about much sooner than youโ€™d imagineโ€”but I still make time to call her. She would freak out otherwise, but itโ€™s also a nice way to acknowledge her and what she means to me.

Iโ€™m not the only one either. A lot of people I know have regular interactions with their parents. But even they follow Motherโ€™s Day ritual because itโ€™s just so baked into our minds, andโ€”gosh what would people think about them if they donโ€™t?

Thatโ€™s how compelling this story is. Itโ€™s so haunting that you canโ€™t get away from it without going through with it. And like a vicious cycle, as people fuelled the tradition every year, weโ€™ve ended up with a generation of mothers whoโ€™re accustomed to expecting the $100 wine bottle (which they know was on sale for $89.95) as proof of their childrenโ€™s love.

As a marketer, I appreciate the mastery of the storytelling. But as a child, it just makes me a monster whoโ€™s so obsessed with work that she couldnโ€™t even send her mother a card on Motherโ€™s Day.

Oh, well.

Walk me down the aisle

Walking down this aisle - by Lake Ginninderra in Canberra
Walking down this aisle – by Lake Ginninderra in Canberra

Dear dad,
as I walk down this aisle
with my eyes streaming
and my soul dreaming
my heart is filled with joy
with every step I take
freshness breezes through my hair
and a chillness numbs my knuckles
as I clench, I know itโ€™s only fair
that you join me with chuckles
as twilight chases the winter noon
arm in arm, as father and child
dipping toes in a solitary lagoon
watching the sun set himself
down below in Down Under
dear dad, wish you were here
to walk with me down this aisle
as I move on to an all new home


P.S: I just relocated to Canberra, Australia, and this poem was inspired by this wonderful walkway.

Soldier, long gone

Recruitment poster used during the Australian wars - on display at the Australian War Memorial, Canberra
Recruitment poster used during the Australian wars – on display at the Australian War Memorial, Canberra

I look at you
once bright as dew
now frayed, tearing at the seams
a picture unlike any other it seems
beetle eyes gleaming through the glass
a spectacle for the students in my class
how well your brows curve crookedly
masking shadows of scheming wickedly
though just another memory to many
for your thoughts Iโ€™d offer moreโ€™n a penny
how you could while away your life
warring others’ battles without a strife
a proud son that faced his mother tall
and answered the motherlandโ€™s call