The Career Conundrum — An Open Letter to a High-Scorer

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Hey there!

I heard you got your SSLC (Secondary School Leaving Certificate) results sometime last week.

Looks like you’ve done pretty well, huh?

The whole of Tamil Nadu rejoiced that over 40 students had scored 499/500. What fierce competition! And for something as trivial as memorizing a certainly erroneous textbook.

Surprised? Didn’t you realize how silly your syllabi were? How can you claim printing blunders as petty?

Plus, the top people in the education department worry about the falling standards. At this rate, they say, top-scorers wouldn’t stand a chance in a nation-wide evaluation.

Some even suggested new syllabi for better education.

No worries though. This result is still a big deal.

Your parents know it. But it seems you don’t. And that’s why I decided to knock some sense into your over-creative head.

How come you haven’t realized it yet? This result determines your future! The more you score, the greater your chances are for groups 1 or 2 — which is eventually Engineering. Or Medicine  —  if you’re that ambitious.

But I hear you have something else in mind. Trust me, you don’t want to hear about the third group.

Only those who are too stupid and lazy to study choose the Arts. Oh, yes.

As Indian, nothing is more prestigious than becoming an Engineer or Doctor. They are the highest-paying jobs and will earn you a lump dowry in the marriage market. Why would you want to give up on that?

There’s a saying, “Indians become an Engineer first and then decide what they want to become in life.” Like most people, you probably think it’s just another of those Facebook fads, but it sure as hell is not.

True, most Engineering graduates spend four years discerning the mechanics of things they care naught for.

Then there’s the MBA infatuation.

After wasting years and parents’ money, they spend a couple more years suited-up in college. They hope it’ll be their cherry, but none of them notices the ice-cream melting.

Because it’s all part of the social convention. The more you follow the common folk, the less they’ll look down on you.

Besides, melting ice-cream’s pretty amazing, don’t you think?

Choose the Arts, and people would judge you sooner than your high-school teacher. Arts graduates spend the next five to all their years explaining to an unbelieving mob why they don’t like Engineering.

And how can you not like Engineering? It’s not like you have a choice  —  it’s like primary education.

Denying a degree in engineering is declining a basic need. After all, in today’s India, engineering is survival instinct.

Choose the Arts, and you’ll be lower than everyone else who were wise enough to avoid it.

Choose the Arts, and you’ll drabble in unemployment and poverty for the rest of your life.

Choose the Arts if your Dad’s a money machine. Otherwise, be wise.

Unless you can become the next Shakespeare or Michael Jackson  — just  don’t do the Arts. Only a fool picks the Arts over Engineering.

Trust me though; no one else will say this to your face. Instead, they’ll tell you it’s awesome to follow your dreams  — because no one else dares.

There’s a reason no one else dares.

Your classmates  —  the would-be engineers who hope to land an unrelated career  —  would tell you how pitiful their life is. At least your family considered your interests.

Whereas your family would counsel you on how foolish it is to choose the Arts. How it’s a dying breed, how doing Engineering before anything is a backup if you ever flunk your dream  —  because hey, shit happens.

If you come out of it, and still wish to do Arts, then perhaps I underestimated you. Perhaps you do have a strong will.

No matter. The rest of society will succeed where your family didn’t. A month or two in the real world and you’ll probably run off to an Engineering college, realizing  — but not accepting  — ‘Mom knows best.’

There aren’t many people who endure all that negativity and still stand their ground.

Of those few, just a handful succeed. Most of the Arts folk are just depressed, alone and bitter. And definitely cynical.

Because that’s what society does to you. They’d tell you to be yourself  — but if you do, they’ll crush you.

You could be unknown, you could be broke  — but remember one thing. No one knows Banksy, the person.

And real Artists don’t care.

It’s Just a Word

People spend so much time time contemplating the meaning of life. Perhaps we need to relax, take a step back, and look at life for what it really is — a four-letter word.

Life

Now that I realize it, I can’t help but wonder why I didn’t see it earlier. It seems obvious now — there’s not a thing or person can alter my perspective on life. It’s whatever I want it to be, and it does differ from one person to another. What others say about my life are just empty words. What really matters to me is what I consider my life as.

But that needs some thought.

The Soul Drink

I love coffee. Nothing soothes me like good coffee. But even I can’t deny the times when coffee falls just short. It’s sad, yes. But there’s always tea.

That awesome English beverage that has enough caffeine to satiate the soul.

I like my coffee in any way: hot, cold, black, sugar-less, freshly ground, without chicory – it rarely matters, as long as it’s there. But tea – there are plenty of conditions. And that’s why it’s so difficult to find the best cuppa. Oh yes, I’m in love with that English term as well.

Perhaps it’s the rarity that makes me crave it. Perhaps it’s also why I can’t refrain from photographing my tea.

the soul drink I can hardly stop looking at this photo. I fell in love with my own work and Instagram.

Some things in life are minute. It takes an artful look to see through the beauty of miniature. Much like the froth that brims in this cup of tea.

The photo is a moment captured in time. When you look close enough, you’ll see your reflection on the tiny bubbles. To capture such a moment on a lasting frame is a great feeling. And if an amateur like myself can do a decent job of it, I cringe to think what professionals could do.

I’m biased, but I love everything about this photo. The tumbler isn’t perfectly aligned with the dabara (the cup). But that’s what makes it natural. It looks like a cup I’m going to drink from, and not a model for product photography.

The lighting is average. I know nothing about the technical aspects of aperture and lens light. All I know is to point and click.

The bench, its shade,the blurry finish, the reflection of the tree – everything adds a little to the story. And plants improperly aligned – everything says outdoor.

Above all, it’s the reflection of the tree’s branches around the dabara that impresses me. They might be negligible, but it makes the photo all the more likable.

However much I boast about my photo, I can’t deny that none of its tiny, lovable aspects was intentional. It was a happy accident that Instagram highlighted and transformed.

Which makes me wonder about human nature. We don’t look at anything as it is. We constantly sharpen, hone and improve. It’s natural to pay attention to details, obsess over them, to give importance to even the negligible aspects of an object – to make it look better.

And that ability is worth more than anything else. A photo, a sculpture, a portrait, or a piece of writing – every work of art reveals mankind’s scrutiny. And that’s worth more than a thousand words.

My Expert

Everyone — at least once in life — feels that they know what they’re doing. Everything anyone says sounds insane — particularly the mother.

But no matter how much you hurt her, shout at her or insult her even, she calls you back. It’s the best relationship anyone could ever have. It’s also the only relationship that everyone should experience to comprehend its beauty.

As for me, my mother is just annoying. All the time. She calls me 12 times a day. I need to report to her after breakfast, lunch and dinner. During weekdays, she needs to know once I’m safely home. I should report to her before going shopping, walking or for a dine out. She so compulsively needs to be aware of everything I do. Everyday.

It’s really a pain. I can hardly go about my daily life without thinking about the consequences of my decisions. She’s continuously worries about what I eat and drink — down to the last dreg of coffee.

She’s made my life so much tough.

But she’s also the one who gave me this life. She supported my every decision. Even if it was painful for her. She understood when I had to leave home. She did make a big deal out of it, even cried, but never once did she tell me to quit on my life and come back to her.

Anyone else would use what they’ve done for me as a way to manipulate me.

She might not know to navigate technology, she might be a ancient in modern society, she might not fit in. And she might not be the ideal 21st century mother.

But she’s the perfect mother for me. Because everything we went through, we’ve gone through together. And that’s what makes her my first and only life expert.


This contest on IndiBlogger made me reflect on my relationship with my mother.

Then The Worst Happened

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Sometimes, it only takes one small incident to change us. A word of love, or a word in haste, a disaster, a tiny flaw – whatever it is, it changes us. And once that happens, we’re forever free.